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  • It is just a matter of semantics?

    Today’s guest post comes to us from Andrew. I’ve spent the past several weeks euphemizing, dodging, and altering the narrative of the long out-of-print Book of Mormon Reader as I read to my two young daughters. While the artwork is as vivid and interesting as […]

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  • Ride to Church in Brazil

    Today’s Ride to Church comes to us all the way from Itatiba, Brazil (which is on the eastern side, outside of Sao Paolo).   Huge shout-out to Melissa, who writes: ; I live about 20 kilometers from church, in a very rural area, and church […]

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  • 24 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: “We know that. . .”

    I pick it up, open it, and read this sentence on page 3: "We know that gender was set in the premortal world."

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  • On turning 12

    I am fifteen years into this whole parenthood project and I am only sort of embarrassed to admit that I have never once wished to turn back the clock.   Or pause it.   Or even slow it down.   I have been content to […]

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  • 23 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats (Link Correction)

    23 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats (Link Correction)

    The Mormon in the Cheap Seats post you’re looking for is here: https://dovesandserpents.org/2012/03/23-mcs-a-few-questions/

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  • 23 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: A Few Questions?

    1) Why is it so hard, when it comes to women, for Mormons to understand that being valuable is not the same as being equal?, 2) If King Benjamin were put in charge of church finances. . .

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  • Grondahl 14

    For other cartoons in this series,  click here.    This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation  and  Calvin Grondahl.

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  • Walk to Church in San Jose, Costa Rica

    So I’ve got one more ride to church from the two weeks I spent in Costa Rica in January.   This one is from San Jose, the capital of Costa Rica, so it’s quite different from the other two which were from rural areas (see […]

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  • The Hallelujah Chorus

    Let’s just get the Shrek connection out of the way. The strange inclusion of the song “Hallelujah” in the enormously successful 2001 animated film (that launched a million sequels) helped put Leonard Cohen’s enormously influential but not yet incredibly well known composition on the popular […]

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  • 16 Dear Jack: McLDS

    Dear Jack, What, exactly, is The Handbook? Is it scripture? Is it not scripture? Is it revelation? Is it not revelation? How can we say we believe in teaching correct principles and letting individuals govern themselves if we have a 400+ page handbook? I’m sure […]

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  • Grondahl 13

    For other cartoons in this series,  click here.    This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation  and  Calvin Grondahl.

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  • A Preview of Things to Come?

    My son is the only boy in his Primary class, which makes him the only soon-to-be Young Man in the Valiant 11 group. He will be turning twelve this spring, which means he was also the only boy invited to the ward Priesthood Preview event, […]

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  • I Missed the Sweet Spot

    Sigh.   I’ve been so anxious for my kids to get older, I forgot to enjoy what I’m now realizing was the sweet spot.   The sweet spot occurs between the years of 6 and 11, give or take a year or two depending on […]

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  • My Emails with Andre

    O Lord, how long shall thy hand be stayed from, and thine eye behold, the wrongs of thy people and of thy servants inflicted by our much prayed for, but now regrettable … Mormon Moment?   By my calculations, The Mormon Moment began on June […]

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  • 15 Dear Jack: It’s All True

    "There is no one thing that's true. It's all true."

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  • Grondahl 12

    For other cartoons in this series,  click here.    This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation, the publisher, and  Calvin Grondahl.

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  • Walk to Two Churches in Santa Elena, Costa Rica

    I spent the first two weeks of 2012 in Costa Rica (and have written about it here and here).   Bottom line–I had no kids to tend to and all the time in the world to wander around strange cities and take pictures. Thus, a […]

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  • 22 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: Look Mom, No Hands!

    It's a "Look Ma, No Hands!" approach to issue management. We want to say, "look, we aren't racists, and we have no idea why that racist policy was enforced for 130 years."

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  • So You Think You Can Write LDS Newsroom Press Releases

    There's a little known LDS tradition that on Leap Day, ordinary members of the church can write fantasy press releases for the LDS newsroom. Here are some of the ones we've collected from among our friends and neighbors for Leap Day 2012.

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  • The Sacredness of Manhood

    Today’s guest post comes to us from Angela Felsted, who is a musician, poet, and nature lover. Her work has appeared in issue fifteen of Drown in Your Own Fears, in Chantarelle’s Notebook, and in Vine Leaves Literary Journal. You can find more of her […]

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  • Onward and Upward

    My son made a basket during the final game of his fifth grade basketball season yesterday! It was a beautiful shot, let me tell you. I was holding my breath the entire time. He jumped up, grabbed the rebound, did a half pivot and launched […]

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  • Ride to Church in Columbus, Mississippi

    Today’s ride to church comes to us from Lori in Columbua, Missippi.   Thanks, Lori!

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  • 21 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: Half a Foot (or Church)

    The "nicer" men are about the patriarchal structure of the church, the more likely it is to be perpetuated. The best way for men to promote change in this context may be to act like authoritarian jerks.

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  • Updated :Grondahl 11– caption contest

    The cartoon for this caption contest is VERY open-ended. Again, remember that if you know the original caption, don’t tell! I’ll reveal the original next Saturday, along with the winner of the contest, who receives nothing but accolades and bragging rights. Here’s the  original Grondahl […]

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  • A gift of bread or stones?

    If a gift harms someone, is it really a gift? Can we tell the difference between bread and rocks, or do we need to read some parables again?

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  • Why don’t Mormons celebrate Lent?

    Today is Ash Wednesday.   Before I spent eight years in Louisiana, I would not even have known what Ash Wednesday was.   I grew up in the Bible belt, so I knew plenty of Baptists, a few Methodists and Presbyterians, perhaps, but not many […]

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  • Ebony and Ivory: discussing the politics of race with young children

    In the post-Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday period and in the midst of Black History Month, my kindergartner has had a lot of questions about race. Not particularly about the children in her class or our friends of different races, but particularly WHY "'most homeless people have dark skin. "

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  • Grondahl 10

    Poor guy must be at Utah State instead of BYU. For other cartoons in this series, click here.   ; This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation, the publisher, and  Calvin Grondahl. ;

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  • 20 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: Half a Church

    I have brought my daughter, dressed up and nervous with anticipation, gift in hand, to a birthday party where the boys will decide what games to play and what the rules will be. . .

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  • Ride to Church and a Volcano in La Fortuna, Costa Rica

    I spent the first two weeks of 2012 in Costa Rica with 18 female undergraduate students from my university.   It was a fascinating trip in so many ways.   I’ve never been to Costa Rica before, so that was amazing.   And it was […]

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  • 14 Dear Jack: Self-Love

    We can and should make ethical and moral choices about our sexual behavior, but attaching that morality to perfectly healthy and normal biological responses or our fugitive thoughts is a mistake.

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  • Defying Gender Stereotypes

    This is one of the coolest things I’ve seen in a long time.   I’m thrilled to share this with y’all and hope that some of you participate in the contest. My friend and fellow Huntsville High School graduate, Jeremy Hilton, recently won a contest […]

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  • Too Late to Party Like It’s 1999?

    As a Mormon, my "one-true" nightclubbing years were spent as a newly wed trying to prove I was much older and more mature than my years let on, dutifully planning my family while my peers were partying it up. Here I was on the flip side trying to be hip enough despite my parent card as my peers now gladly trade in their dancing shoes for evenings with new babies.

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  • Where the Rubber Meets the Road

    In the space of just four weeks during the most recent holiday season, I had to purchase three new tires for my Mormon mommy minivan. That seems like a lot, doesn’t it? I certainly thought so. For the record, I prefer tire shops with mangy […]

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  • Grondahl 9

    If you’d like to see other cartoons in this series go to  https://dovesandserpents.org/category/columns/grondahl-restored/ This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation, the publisher, and  Calvin Grondahl.

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  • Ride to the Houston Mormon Stories Conference

    A couple weeks ago, my husband (Mr. Cheap Seats) and I were lucky enough to get to attend the Texas Mormon Stories conference in Houston. We even participated on a panel of people talking about navigating misfit-Mormon issues as parents.   I’m guessing that after […]

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  • Inviting the demons in for tea

    As my son and I approached the enclosure at the dog park yesterday, we were excited to see another Samoyed eagerly waiting at the fence. Her owner seemed excited too — Samoyeds seem to know that they are rare breed and thrive playing with each […]

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  • Staff Stacks

    What the D&S writers are reading, watching, listening to, eating and browsing right now.

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  • Are all white people racist?

    I recently saw this embarrassment of a video on Facebook: http://youtu.be/XGeMy-6hnr0 There are so many things wrong with the video, it’s hard to know where to start.   I cringed when I saw the guy dressing up in black face, but I admit that I […]

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  • Every Mother’s Nightmare

    "Unspeakable" is an interesting way for me to label this crime, especially considering statistics show an American is sexually assaulted every 2.5 minutes. Yet as much as I teach my children not to take candy from strangers or to stay away from suspicious white vans without windows, this is a subject about which I haven't spoken to them.

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  • Grondahl 8

    If you’d like to see other cartoons in this series go to  https://dovesandserpents.org/category/columns/grondahl-restored/ This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind permission of    The Sunstone  Foundation, the publisher, and  Calvin Grondahl.

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  • On Thin Places

    I’ve been chewing my way through The Heart of Christianity: Rediscovering a Life of Faith by Marcus Borg, a professor of religion and culture at Oregon State University. Borg’s is a very universal, ecumenical message. He’s Christian, and his heart is committed to his faith, […]

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  • Ride to Church in Edmonton

    Today’s Ride to Church comes to us from Terry in Edmonton, who writes: I live in Edmonton, which is in central Alberta, Canada. I was born here, but soon moved away, then back and away again – but somehow, Edmonton was always, and still is, […]

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  • 13 Dear Jack: Don’t Lose Heart

    ; Dear Jack, My shifting faith away from Mormonism hasn’t created a problem with my parenting decisions – until now as my kids hit their teen years. My 16-year old son hangs out with other kids who seem like nice, reasonable and fun teenagers. Often […]

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  • Mind the Gap

    I recently re-read Carol Lynn Pearson’s amazing No More Goodbyes: Circling the Wagons around Our Gay Loved Ones for the second time because a woman in my very-Mormon book club picked it for us to read.   For me, it was at least as inspiring […]

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  • Rogue Cinema: Enjoy the Silence

    The Artist is a bold, artsy stroke hidden in a big-hearted familiar story, or maybe it's the other way around?

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  • 19 A Mormon in the Cheap Seats: Organizational Physics

    So here it is. The one inmutable law of organizations. As long as #4 is greater than #2, the organization will grow (and continue to amass resources).

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  • Ride to Church in Vienna

    Today’s Ride to Church comes to us from Dean, who is living in Vienna, Austria right now.   Dean writes: ; We are living in Grinzing, the northernmost community in the city, which is nestled against the vineyards and hills of the Vienna Woods. Founded […]

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  • Grondahl 7

    I love Grondahl’s representation of people. Mormon people, as lumpy, tired, pasty people. And, the kids, monstrous kids, running wild and irreverent. ; If you’d like to see other cartoons in this series go to  https://dovesandserpents.org/category/columns/grondahl-restored/ This cartoon, as always, is posted with the kind […]

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  • Dog Heaven

    . You know how we all imagine that 'dog heaven' will be a place where dogs get to do what dogs like, like ride in cars with their heads hanging out the window or run through meadows chasing balls and sticks? Somehow, 'Mormon heaven' has never sounded like 'Claire heaven' to me.

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  • You Lost Me

    By day, I fancy myself a qualitative researcher.   That means that people’s stories matter to me-significantly more than their answers to Likert scale questions.   I’ll read a qualitative research study from just about any academic discipline-but skip right over the quantitative stuff.   […]

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  • Dusting Polygamy from the Shelf

    “Families are Forever” reads the plaque, its vinyl modern font letters set against an artful antique finish. It’s the catch-phrase of modern Mormonism, a way of life for the most devout and the last holdout belief for those who struggle or find themselves at odds […]

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  • Ride to Church in Corpus Christi

    In October of last year, I spent a couple days in Corpus Christi at a work conference. One morning, I put on my running shoes, bought a cheap disposable camera in the hotel gift shop, and headed out for a run.   I ran for […]

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  • Can a Virtual Cupcake Make Me Fat?

    The phrase "it takes a village" surfaces a deep longing for living in a time when I might have had a village. Nostalgic thoughts of sharing housework, childcare and my entire day with other "villagers" has always sounded nothing less than divine and impossible.

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  • Pura Vida

    I just spent two weeks in Costa Rica.   Technically, it was for work, but it was very un-work-like.   I went as a chaperone for a group of 18 female undergrads who were preparing to start their semester of student teaching.   The two […]

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  • My Own Personal Canon: Letter from Birmingham Jail

    Dr. Martin Luther King’s famous April 1963 letter, written to his fellow southern clergymen, was not known to me, sadly, until I was a college student, some thirty plus years after it was written. But his words, true and powerful and shining as anything that […]

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  • Grondahl Restored 6: Caption Contest!

    Caption Contest Tell us what your caption for this cartoon would be, in the comments below. If you know what the original caption was, don’t tell us. The idea is to be creative, not to be a smarty pants. The prize– well, there is no […]

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  • Walk to Church (=Yosemite)

    Today’s walk to church comes to us from Laura in California, who spent a weekend in Yosemite with her family last fall. Laura writes: We had the opportunity to enjoy a last-minute birthday-weekend trip to Yosemite National Park just before the first snows fell in […]

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  • 12 Dear Jack: The Good Daughter

    ; Dear Jack, I don’t have a great relationship with my father. He and my mother divorced when I was six, and he became engaged to my stepmother two years later. That relationship is also fraught–throughout my childhood and teenage years, she was emotionally manipulative […]

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  • Knock and it shall be opened….

    I've always been intellectually supportive of the mission of Visiting Teaching. Actually making myself do it, or enjoy being on the receiving end- or 'teachee,' as it were- hasn't come as naturally.

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